It seems like most adoption websites or message boards I go to feature discussions about whether or not to start a nursery, register for baby stuff, and just shop for baby stuff in general. My personal feeling is that I feel like I've been left out on enough of the "expectant" mother process. I won't be able to visit the doctor to see our baby grow via ultra sound. I won't be able to feel him/her kick or get the hiccups in the womb. Even the big belly and the maternity clothes and the pregnant waddle, I would've welcomed all of it gladly! So, if I want to create a baby registry and set up a nursery and pick out some gender neutral clothing, what's the harm in that? I realize we could match with a baby and it could fall through. But, to me, I am creating a nursery for OUR baby, and if a match is made and falls through, then that baby wasn't meant for us. I want this process to be as much like a pregnancy as possible. We are waiting for our baby. It may be longer than nine months, and we may get lucky and have a shorter wait, but either way, we're what I've heard other bloggers say "paper pregnant." I love that!
