Baby Shower **with updates**

We had a baby shower for our Lily-bug yesterday. It was so surreal. I thought for so long that I would only attend baby showers. Actually having one of my own was unreal. It was a beautiful, beautiful party for our beautiful girl. I'm starting to get the hang of this mom-business. My mom was here for the weekend, and she got up with Lily all night Sat. night, and it made all the difference for me. Having one night's sleep felt like a vacation to me! :) Lily is SUCH a good girl; she only cries when she's hungry (that's MY girl!), and she's so easy-going.

I want to post something ick, though, that happened yesterday. I have a cousin who brought her sister-in-law to the shower. This girl isn't a very nice person, and I knew that from the beginning, but I didn't want to not include her in our day. However, standing in the kitchen, I had my first horrible "adoption" conversation. Someone made a comment about how tough it was for us to be stuck in a hotel room with a brand new baby so far from all of our friends and family. This girl says (in front of everyone!), "Well, at least you weren't tired." I played it off and said that we were pretty tired after spending two weeks in anticipation of the trip and then spending five days with the birthmom and her family worrying about her well-being. This girl kept going. She said, "That's nothing compared to what giving birth makes you feel like." This may be true; Unfortunately, I'll probably never know that. But, why in the world would you challenge someone like that at her own baby shower for her newly adopted baby? It didn't stop there because I didn't back down from her. I told her very pointedly about the pain and emotion that had gone into our journey and how tired we were from it emotionally. She said even more rudely, "That's nothing compared to how you would've felt if you would've given birth. " She went on to say something about me not being "split in two" and not having been sleepless for a month due to being pregnant. Excuse me? I've been sleepless for MONTHS waiting and waiting for a baby whose location, gender, etc. I had no idea of. I am SURE labor is very difficult, but I really do feel like anyone who has dealt with infertility has been through months, years, etc. of labor. I had many days where I would've welcomed physical labor if it would've meant a baby that day. Again, please don't think I'm diminishing labor; I'm sure it's horrible! :) But, I was so pissed to have to deal with that at my own house for my own baby shower. She makes me want to say bad words! :)

I'm off to bathe my silly Lily. She hates it. Am I a bad mom because I like the way her little cry sounds? It's too cute! Not that I sit and listen to her cry...:) I'm going to stop here.! :)

**Updates: Okay, I have to tell you about the great stuff we got. We got our travel crib, which is great so we can take Lily on adventures), a beautiful swing, cans of formula (so great!), cute clothes, a baby bath tub, and a Build A Bear gift certificate, which I am so excited to use. We're having another shower (woo hoo!) this weekend. We both come from divorced families, so keeping it down to two showers is like a miracle. Also, I want to add to the above that my cousin did not stand up for me. I don't think people know quite what to say in situations like that. I want to start having little snappy retorts to stupid people. I should've said, "Didn't you have epidurals with all three of your babies? I remember you bragging about how easy it was." Stupid girl. I need to bring out my inner catty girl once in awhile! :)***