**Update: Here are two pics from the wedding. The first one is the wedding party, and the second is my brother's new fam! :)
There is nothing more beautiful than the creation of a family. I posted quickly yesterday just because I couldn't wait to get the picture of the baby in his tux up:) And barelysane, you're right, the paci makes the outfit! :) There are things I'd like to flesh out a little, though.
First of all, the wedding was beautiful! They did all the pictures ahead of time, which was great. I got to keep the baby overnight Sat. night and I loved it! I want to focus, though, on my brother building a family. As I came down the aisle and saw my brother at the front of the church holding the baby in his arms, I started crying. Not sad tears because I don't have a baby or sad tears at the change in our family, but tears because I knew I was experiencing one of the most beautiful moments of my life. During my own wedding, I was too frazzled and nervous to really take anything in, but during this one, I fully experiencing the joining of two families. It was incredible; I can't even articulate to you how I felt. I'm so overwhelmed with love for my new sister and my new, beautiful nephew. I am also in awe of God because I feel like He has given me so much through my family. We were nervous at first to pursue adoption because of all the silly ideas that adopted kids aren't "yours." My nephew is not blood related to us at all, but he is our family. My brother is his dad, and I am his (favorite!) aunt. I know I've said this before, but I truly believe that all of this happened at the same time for a reason. I know beyond a doubt that I will love our children with my whole heart, regardless of how they come to us.
I have to also write quickly (and totally ruin the sentimental, pure tone of this post) about a message on our voice mail when we got home. My husband's cousin is (or was) 38 weeks pregnant on Friday. She went in and was sure they'd have her stay, but she was less than 1 cm dilated. The problem lies in the message left for us. It was two minutes long, and her husband was nearly in tears because they wouldn't keep her and they would "have to wait an entire week" to meet their new daughter. I know I shouldn't be so sensitive, but it made me furious. They are well aware of our situation, and I know they must be really anxious to meet their daughter, but to tell someone who has been waiting for YEARS, not weeks to become a parent that you don't know how you'll make it another week until the baby you already are carrying inside you and has been part of your family for eight months is born maybe isn't the most sensitive thing to do. Okay, vent over, but people are stupid. :)
On the adoption front, not much is new. There is a situation due early April that we want to be shown on, but the agency hasn't called us back about it yet. I guess they may be behind, but I hate waiting on them. Do you guys ever feel like TTC/adopting is a full time job? I really wish I could quit working and focus on it 100%....I type as I'm sitting in my classroom blogging while students do group work. I'm worthless!!! :)
First of all, the wedding was beautiful! They did all the pictures ahead of time, which was great. I got to keep the baby overnight Sat. night and I loved it! I want to focus, though, on my brother building a family. As I came down the aisle and saw my brother at the front of the church holding the baby in his arms, I started crying. Not sad tears because I don't have a baby or sad tears at the change in our family, but tears because I knew I was experiencing one of the most beautiful moments of my life. During my own wedding, I was too frazzled and nervous to really take anything in, but during this one, I fully experiencing the joining of two families. It was incredible; I can't even articulate to you how I felt. I'm so overwhelmed with love for my new sister and my new, beautiful nephew. I am also in awe of God because I feel like He has given me so much through my family. We were nervous at first to pursue adoption because of all the silly ideas that adopted kids aren't "yours." My nephew is not blood related to us at all, but he is our family. My brother is his dad, and I am his (favorite!) aunt. I know I've said this before, but I truly believe that all of this happened at the same time for a reason. I know beyond a doubt that I will love our children with my whole heart, regardless of how they come to us.
I have to also write quickly (and totally ruin the sentimental, pure tone of this post) about a message on our voice mail when we got home. My husband's cousin is (or was) 38 weeks pregnant on Friday. She went in and was sure they'd have her stay, but she was less than 1 cm dilated. The problem lies in the message left for us. It was two minutes long, and her husband was nearly in tears because they wouldn't keep her and they would "have to wait an entire week" to meet their new daughter. I know I shouldn't be so sensitive, but it made me furious. They are well aware of our situation, and I know they must be really anxious to meet their daughter, but to tell someone who has been waiting for YEARS, not weeks to become a parent that you don't know how you'll make it another week until the baby you already are carrying inside you and has been part of your family for eight months is born maybe isn't the most sensitive thing to do. Okay, vent over, but people are stupid. :)
On the adoption front, not much is new. There is a situation due early April that we want to be shown on, but the agency hasn't called us back about it yet. I guess they may be behind, but I hate waiting on them. Do you guys ever feel like TTC/adopting is a full time job? I really wish I could quit working and focus on it 100%....I type as I'm sitting in my classroom blogging while students do group work. I'm worthless!!! :)
8 comments:
I often do feel like it's a full time job because it is either in the back or the forefront of my mind CONSTANTLY! As for your husbands cousin...I think people that don't have any fertility issues just don't think. If it was easy for them to get pregnant they really have no comprehension. I remember my best friend complaining that it took her 6 months to get pregnant.
Trace
Naughty teacher - blogging in class! Better not let the principal catch you! LOL.
Well now, that message was a total foot-in-mouth moment for him. And you are right, he wont have a clue how it made you feel.
Glad to hear the wedding was so nice.
No, no, no, sitting at your desk while your students do work does not make you worthless. It means you have provided something worthwhile for them, knowing that you're preoccupied and don't want to give them 50% of a lesson. Seatwork used to be all kids did, and now apparently it's not appropriate anymore. What's that about?
By the way, I can't tell you the number of times I've sat at my desk, read e-mails or blogs, reviewed mailing lists, and scoured photolistings! My home e-mail is always open on my school computer, I check it at least in between each period and sometimes in the middle of classes also. That does not make you a bad teacher by any means. It makes you human! Just think of all the bathroom trips and feet-up episodes the pregnant teachers have. Why is that ok? This IS your pregnancy, it's just that yours is unfortunately a little longer and more emotionally draining.
You're incredibly strong for enduring all you have.
Aww- Great pictures! Everyone looks beautiful! Are you one of the bridesmaids?! ;-) What a great looking family.
Well, yes, I am a bridesmaid:) I'm the one with my hair down on the right side...now my cover is blown. :)
Re: The phone call - you just have to learn to let comments like that go. Try not to waste your emotions on negativity, because even our closest friends and relatives won't always "get it" and that's normal and okay. My cousin absolutely adores my two boys (both adopted) - one if of Mexican descent and she made a derogatory comment about Mexicans, in front of both of us, just the other day. I ignored it because I saw the look in her face - she immediately realized what she had said and that it probably offended me - I didn't need to say a thing. I'm sure she will start to examine her own feelings and will be very careful in the future...and if not, I will deal with it directly. I have learned, over the last two and a half years, to blow these comments off (most much less offensive than her's) because people just don't realize what they're saying and I could have easily "said the wrong thing" to an adoptive parent before I became educated, and an adoptive parent, myself.
Well, anyway...I know remarks can sting, but unfortunately you will get enough of them in the future and you will learn how to let them go (unless of course they compromise your son's or daughter's emotional health).
What a beautiful wedding and family. Congratulations.
Oh yeah, I feel like it's a full-time job!
I AM a SAHW, and sometimes I seriously wonder how people who work outside the home (well, I babysit our godson three days a week at his home, but still) can do IF treatments especially. I can not imagine.
And it's not much easier with adoption. Especially since we are doing open, it's like...when the birthmom says it's interview time, you drop everything.
Anyway, I'm sorry that your cousin was insensitive. It's hard with stuff like that. My best friend (mom of that godson) always complains of the cost (under $4000, they were insured) of her delivery and the fact that having a c-section "took away one of her rights of passage as a woman."
Yep.
The wedding is so beautiful and your family is gorgeous!
What a beautiful family! How wonderful for all of you to be so blessed by the new family.
People have no idea the power of their words that is for sure.
I hope you get some good news soon.
I am thinking about you.
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