SO NERVOUS

This will be short and sweet; we have been on the phone for the entire morning getting information about two different situations we're being presented on. One baby is ours if we say yes; the only hang up is that the mom has tested positive for cocaine. If any adoptive parents are reading, please leave me a comment on your experiences if your child was exposed to drugs in the womb. The second is also a mildly exposed situation, but we're among three other couples being presented. If you're a pray-er, please, please sent a few up for us:) If you're a finger crosser, do that:) Thanks so much!! I'll post as soon as I hear something. This is the most excited, but also the most nauseated I've been in my entire life!

Faith

I find it so difficult to hang on to my faith through this whole adoption process. There are many things about life that challenge one's faith. I've always only wanted to be a mom. Even growing up, I never had huge career aspirations (other than marrying Jordan Knight...though he was much older, I always thought we could make it work). I have always wanted to have children and stay home with them. Finding out I most likely will not ever carry a child was beyond devastating for me. I want to trust that God has a bigger plan and that He has a child waiting for us, but my faith is often challenged by this horrible waiting.
Sitting in church, though, I always feel calmed. When I make the effort to trust and when I pray, I always feel better.
I want to leave a verse on here that I have attached to my computer with a post-it note.
"I prayed for this child, and the Lord has granted me what I asked of Him.
1 Samuel 27

Even if we don't share the same faith, I pray that anyone out there who has lost hope or is discouraged will find some sort of comfort somewhere.

On a happier note, I believe I'm going to attempt to make a gingerbread house today...I'm scared:) I'll post pics later on...if they aren't too embarrassing.
Take care!!

To shop or not to shop...

It seems like most adoption websites or message boards I go to feature discussions about whether or not to start a nursery, register for baby stuff, and just shop for baby stuff in general. My personal feeling is that I feel like I've been left out on enough of the "expectant" mother process. I won't be able to visit the doctor to see our baby grow via ultra sound. I won't be able to feel him/her kick or get the hiccups in the womb. Even the big belly and the maternity clothes and the pregnant waddle, I would've welcomed all of it gladly! So, if I want to create a baby registry and set up a nursery and pick out some gender neutral clothing, what's the harm in that? I realize we could match with a baby and it could fall through. But, to me, I am creating a nursery for OUR baby, and if a match is made and falls through, then that baby wasn't meant for us. I want this process to be as much like a pregnancy as possible. We are waiting for our baby. It may be longer than nine months, and we may get lucky and have a shorter wait, but either way, we're what I've heard other bloggers say "paper pregnant." I love that!

I'm attaching some pictures of our nursery so far. I think it's pretty gender neutral, and I am absolutely in love with it. We do keep the door shut every day, but really, when I go in there, I feel excited about what's to come. I think we may go out today in search of a dresser...that is, if I can pull my husband away from college basketball. Oh, the joy. What are your feelings on shopping?

Questions People Ask

I love Thursdays! They're so close to Fridays that they almost count as the weekend:) Since this blog is for me to let my feelings out, I have to write about people and their stupid comments regarding adoption. THREE times I have been given the "pity" look when I've told people we're adopting. And TWICE, once by the woman cutting my hair and once by the HR person at work, I've been asked, "So, you can't have a baby of your own?" Both times I've gone home in tears. I need to grow some sort of backbone! I need to think of some great come back. We've joked about just being totally honest and saying something like, "No, I can't. The doctor who has explored my uterus isn't hopeful." Or "No, we've decided giving "deposits" into a cup isn't our idea of romance." I wonder what would happen then. I bet I wouldn't cry after.

I read an interview with Sandra Bullock recently where she talked about all the rumors that constantly go around speculating about her being pregnant. She said she wants to walk up to a reporter some day and say, "What if I couldn't have kids? That's the way you make women feel when you ask them that question." I loved it!

No real news on the adoption front. We're working with a consultant rather than taking the traditional agency route, so our profile is actually with multiple agencies. One called about us two days ago, but I haven't heard anything yet. They have some situations that would be perfect for us, and I'm trying so hard not to get too excited, but that's just about impossible. This roller coaster is SO tough! Hope all is well with everyone reading! I was so excited to get my first comment, you have no idea. I even called home to tell my husband. :)

What Am I Doing Here?

I'm not a writer. I read about a million blogs online dealing with infertility, adoption, etc. and I feel like this may be a great way to join the community of women dealing with such tough issues. It may also serve as a kind of therapy, which I believe I am in great need of...so does my husband, God bless him.

A brief history: We didn't struggle for long with the decision to adopt. We didn't pursue any real fertility treatment because we were told it wasn't likely to be successful. I truly felt led to adopt, like our baby is out there for us somewhere. However, this waiting is just about killing me. I'm a total control freak, and I have serious issues with sitting here waiting on people to find our baby and create a family for us. It's not their life; the people who run the adoption system, I have found, are quite flighty and SLOW. It's a painful process. I used to be terrified of child birth, and now I would welcome that pain if it meant this emotional mess would be over.

I swear not all of my posts will be this bleak...hopefully :)