3:00 am feedings and being a mommy

I can't believe I haven't posted yet this month. I'm a bad blogger! :) Lily has been the world's best sleeper...until now. She's started getting up for a bottle again around 3:00 am and then going back to sleep until 9 or so. I'm not going to not feed her when she's crying and her little tummy rumbles when the food hits it. But, I feel like we're going backwards and starting "bad habits." Any advice? Anybody else have this happen around 4 months?

Also, in adoption-related news, even though Lily's birthfather is deceased, we had to have paternal rights relinquished (love the red tape!). We got a letter from our attorney today stating they have been. And we have our second post-placement on Monday. So, now all we have to do for finalization is wait for the six month waiting period to be over.

The real reason for this post, though, isn't 3:00am feedings. Lily laughed two days ago for the first time! And something unbelievable opened up in me. I've loved her and nurtured her and been her mom from day one, but this was different. Warning, I am about to get sappy and emotional. For all of you women out there who are waiting to be moms, I can't tell you enough how worth every single second of pain and heart break is. Anyone contemplating adoption who thinks, "Will I love this baby like my own?" You will. There is NO love like this. There is no way any person loves any other person more than I love my Lily. Some day you will either finally conceive your baby or you will be matched with the baby who is meant for you, and you will know. This journey is SO hard; it is the toughest thing most of us will ever endure. But, I would do every single thing the exact same way because it gave me Lily. When I was growing up, I always pictured my kids with blond straight hair...I guess because that's what I have. God blessed me with a dark, curly headed little girl that makes me smile and laugh and brings me more joy and hope and faith in Him and in the good in the world than I ever thought possible. If you're reading this and going through the pain of infertility, please take comfort that someday, even though you don't know when, you will have a little one who will laugh for the first time and will completely and utterly take over your entire heart...and house:)

I did it! I worked out today!

I just feel so good about myself after I work out. It's SO hard to get the motivation to do it, but once it's over, I feel like I'm a champ:) I rented "The Biggest Loser" workout DVD from Blockbuster, and it kicked my butt! But, I loved it:) It's so inspirational to see the people on there who have worked so hard and gotten into such great shape. And I love the idea that it's not really about getting "skinny" but about being the best you can be.

If any of you guys are working out or trying to get into shape and want to email to try to support each other, I'd so love that. It's tough to find time to devote to working out with Miss Lil in our house, but I have to do it for myself. I feel like I've started to become that "mom" stereotype who doesn't have time for herself, and I don't want that. Look at me all empowered:)

Now if I can just eat right today. That's tougher for me than working out! I heart junk food. :)

Stop looking at the tv, Lily! :)

I have a confession to make. Lily loves television. I don't let her watch, but she does everything in her power to turn toward to the tv and watch whenever it's on. She particularly loved "The Closer" when I watched that. It's hilarious! I can step in front of her or try to turn her little head, and she totally ignores me until she can "watch" her show again.
She cranes her tiny neck around to get a good view. It really is so funny. We don't "let" her watch or just sit her in front of it, so I'm not too concerned developmentally, but it's funny how drawn to it she is. I'm sure it's just because of the flashing lights and changing picture. Or do I have an addict on my hands? :)

A few new pics

I love these. My husband calls her "Chef Lily" and puts her pants on her head. Nice. Aren't her chubby legs the greatest? She's so gorgeous.

My heart could burst with love.

Cloth diapers? Discuss amongst yourselves.

Any of you use cloth diapers or are you considering doing so? We talked about it before Lily came and to be really honest, now that she's here and I've changed some of her icky diapers, I can't imagine doing it. We are trying so hard in our house to be environmentally friendly because it's something we feel strongly about. But what does it say about my commitment to the issue that the idea of putting her stinky diapers into my washing machine makes me want to buy stock in Huggies? :)
Just wanting to feel this out and see if any of you have done it successfully. Any helpful hints?

We're sending our third package of Lily pictures and a letter to A. We have not heard back from her yet, which I understand totally, but it still makes me sad. It's strange how much I miss her. I know I've said it before, but I always thought I'd be open only to closed adoption or semi-private where we just send pictures. If A called today, I'd want to jump in my car and go see her. We have this bond that no person can understand unless they've been there. I mentioned the other day in casual conversation at a family gathering that if Lily wants to meet A, I'd be super-supportive because I want to see her again. My dad was shocked; he kept saying the typical "Won't that confuse Lily" and "What's the point of going back and digging up the past?" responses. But, I know he just wants to protect us. He can't understand that Lily's past is our past and that these people are our family even if we never speak to them again.
Adoption is incredible. I'm even still just now really grasping what happened and how magical (for lack of a better word) our entire journey has been. I feel truly blessed. I'm overwhelmed with love for my girl.

But I still don't want her poopy diapers in my washing machine. :)

Where has my body gone?

:) Okay, today is the day for me. I am so tired of constantly not feeling good about the way I look. I don't think I'm severely overweight, but I'm sure not what I used to be. Forget that; I'm not what I want to be right now. Infertility (not that I want to use that as my crutch) took such a toll on my body and on my spirit. Having Lily now, I want to be the best I can be for her. I want to be healthy and know that I'm doing all I can to be in shape. Not that I'm giving up ice cream; I'm not a crazy person:) But, I do want to start exercising daily. And I want at least 75% of what goes into my body to be healthy. It's so tough living with a man who can eat whatever he wants and as much as he wants and not gain an ounce. Any tips? Taking walks with Lily is an easy way to get some exercise, but do any of you do anything you really love? I used to love the Tae bo tapes, but they are surely not for a beginner like I am now. Am I a total nerd if I buy the Dancing with the Stars workout tape? Don't make fun. :) Any tips would be great!

I have a RAVE!

I'm not sure if I'm legally allowed to do this, but I have a new mom rave that I can't keep to myself:) Up until last week, Lily was still only sleeping three hours at a time during the night. I was seriously starting to lose my mind:) I read online about something called "The Miracle Blanket," which is this great swaddling blanket. She loves to be swaddled, so I thought I'd check it out. WELL, from the second night we put her in it, she's now sleeping from 9:30 to 4:30, waking for one bottle, and then going back to sleep until 8. It's amazing!! Not that she was ever really fussy, but sleeping so much and so soundly has made her SO much fun during the day! She's smiling and cooing at her toys and at us; it has been life changing:)
I'm going to get one from now on for everyone I know who is having a baby.

This week, I've been back at work giving my girls their exams. It's my "official" last week of work. It's been so emotional and so much more difficult in some ways. I know staying home with Lily is right for her and for me, but I do feel a great deal of loss at quitting teaching. On the other hand, by the middle of the day, I miss Lily so much that I can't stand it, so the grief is pretty much on the way out:)

She will be 9 weeks Mon (can you believe it?) and has her 2 month appointment next Wed. It's the dreaded 4-shot appointment, and I'm already in need of therapy! :)

I have to say here, too, a HUGE congrats to my blog pal, Becky, over at World of Winks, on her beautiful new baby boy. Congrats, Mama! :)

The feet

I took this picture just a minute ago while Lily is napping. These are the feet I was blogging about earlier. The chubbiest, sweetest feet I've ever seen. Couldn't you just eat them up? :)

Yard Sale and Sleep

So today I'm living the American dream and having a yard sale:) It will continue into tomorrow, too; don't be jealous:) I joke about it, but in just four hours today, we made $150!! Isn't that exciting?

I have a question for you moms/aunts/sisters/babysitters...anyone who knows babies. Lily sleeps ALL the time! Is that normal? I have a book that says she should be sleeping only 15 hours, but she sleeps way more than that. She's awake to eat her bottles and then for probably 4 hours or so at the MOST during the day. My husband thinks it may be because she's on formula and rice cereal in the bottle because of a nasty case of acid reflux. He says her little system probably spends all it's energy in digestion:) What do you guys think? I'm kind of in the mindset that if she wants to sleep, she should. She sleeps pretty well at night, so it's not like she has her nights and days mixed up. Help a new mom out! :)

Hugs Sweet Hugs

I got an email from our agency today regarding a wonderful promotion going on at Build-A-Bear Workshops this weekend. It's called Hugs Sweet Hugs. You can go into your local store and create a bear for free to be sent to children both domestically and internationally who are waiting to be adopted. What an awesome thing! I'm cutting and pasting what they sent:

On Saturday, May 19, 2007, approximately 50,000 teddy bears will be made and given to children around the world awaiting a forever family. On this special Stuffed with Hugs Day, Build-A-Bear Workshop® invites the first 200 Guests in all of its stores -- in the United States, Canada, Europe, Asia and Australia -- to make a bear for free. In partnership with the Joint Council on International Children's Services (Joint Council), Build-A-Bear Workshop will give all the bears made to children in need of extra teddy loving care.
All children deserve a safe and loving place in which to live. For children awaiting a place to call home, a teddy bear companion can often provide the special love and comfort needed to make their days brighter. According to Joint Council statistics, there are currently more than 143 million orphaned children around the world. In the United States alone, more than 300,000 kids enter the foster care system each year and currently, there are 114,000 children waiting to be adopted.


This is so great! I can't wait to go make one. We'll name ours Lily:)